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The Formula for Purpose

Dear Shamwow Shaman:

How am I supposed to find my big purpose?  How can I know what I’m supposed to do with my life?   What have I been put on this planet for?  I see a lot about people finding their purpose and living with passion and in doing that, they’re changing the world.  It sounds so good.   Really good.  How can I find MY reason for being?    Or if you have a suggestion of someone I can go to, or a class I can take, a process or a formula, I’m ready.  Really ready.

Impatiently Waiting 


Dear Impatiently Waiting,

One day a scientist came back from his vacation and found mold juice was eating up an experiment he was growing – he was curious as to what else it would eat and the next thing you know we had penicillin.

A 19 year old girl’s diaphanous debutante dress was ruined with her whalebone corset creating a mono bosom and poking out of the fabric, so she fiddled around with some handkerchiefs and ribbon to create the look she wanted and that’s how we got the bra.


If we strip their story down to the bare bones, they were DOING  something and then something happened, and they heard a little voice in their head, and then they started DOING something else, and an act of creation occurred that changed the course they were on, changing their world,  and then everyone else’s world.

What they have in common, those stories of antibiotics and undergarments, is that a person was DOING something.   They weren’t just sitting around waiting for the clouds to part and a voice to come out of the sky.  They weren’t in a classroom trying to figure out how to figure things out.    They were DOING something, and when that small voice in their head instructed them to take a turn and give something a try, they DID it.   They DID the next thing and listened and then DID the next thing and listened…and now through the long lens of history, it looks like antibiotics and undergarments was their big purpose.  

Start DOING something and then listen to that little voice.    Then DO the next thing, and then listen and then DO the next thing, and before you know it, you’ll be on the road to DOING what YOU want to DO.  So here’s a little formula for you---- Doing + Listening + Doing + Listening (x Infinity) = Purpose and Passion.

Will that change the world?   It will certainly change YOUR world.   And when you change your world, the whole world changes.  

Finally Had It!

Dear Shamwow Shaman:

How do you support people who just won’t listen to your advice, even after asking for it!   I have a friend and I just can’t go there anymore with her ongoing sagas because she listens, and then may or may not, take my advice.  And sometimes when she does take my advice, she doesn’t take it exactly, and then likes to point out to me what went wrong with what I suggested.     Aaarrrrgggghhhhh!     I love her to death but need to get off this Dear Abby treadmill with her.   She’s fun and funny and we have so much in common but this whole advice thing seriously saps my energy and is putting our relationship in jeopardy.     Any suggestions?  

Finally Had It Friend


Dear Finally Had It:

Well, well, well (…and isn’t that a deep subject)!     Also, like the advice thing, it’s a big dark hole you can fall into. 

Check out Nina Paley’s awesome Mimi and Eunice on their Facebook page

Check out Nina Paley’s awesome Mimi and Eunice on their Facebook page

The best way to save your gas for your own tank, while still practicing compassion, is to flip the table on your friend, and ask her a Q.      Ask her what SHE thinks SHE should do.      Whatever she says, from “I don’t know” to “I’m thinking I should do this”, assure her that you believe SHE knows what’s best for her.  And you trust that SHE’s going to be able to figure it out, whatever it is.  Tell her you believe, and then give her a big hug and whisper to her that you’ll be there for her, whatever SHE decides to do.   

That way instead of just always feeling her pain, you can start celebrating her progress!  No matter what.  If she doesn’t do anything, you can tell her, “Good.   You must have decided you’re not ready.   Well done.”  Then you can go celebrate how awesome she’s handling her life.     If she does something and it blows up into a big mess, you can say, “I am so here for you.   Let’s get out of here and download everything you’ve learned about that big mess over…” and that could be whatever…wine, chocolate, ice cream or retail therapy.    

Isn’t that what friends are for?  

Sea Monkeys

Dear Shamwow Shaman:

I’m a spiritual seeker, always looking to know myself better, and raise my level of consciousness.  I’ve recently had a few experiences with practitioners who seemed so highly evolved but turned out to be smoke and mirrors.  It seems like everyone has a website, a workshop, great pictures, and great reviews.  How can I tell what or who, is the real deal?   Any insight would be great.


A Spiritual Seeker


Dear Sincerely Seeking:

Discernment is one of the spiritual gifts and a great one to have.  In fact, the first time I can remember using this little blessing was Sea Monkeys.  Remember them?  


I just knew that those Sea Monkeys, heavily advertised in the back of every Betty & Veronica comic I had, wouldn’t bring MY family the laughter, joy and happiness the Transcience Corporation was promising.   No matter how “adorable”, I intuitively knew these minute creatures bringing our family of nine together over the top of a fish bowl would not result in the promised “bowl of happiness”.       

So, how can you, a seeker, start developing that gift of discernment when everywhere you turn you’re being offered “Sea Monkeys” that after a little look turn out to be about as adorable as that space thing that was popping out of people and running after Sigourney Weaver?   

First, remember that we don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are.  So, you’d have to do a little soul searching and figure out what’s all  smoke and mirrors about you lately.   Dig right down and get to the truth.   I know, it’s messy, but everything on the outside is always a reflection of the inside, so you’ve actually got the answer and it’s more than what you’re telling me.   Still baffled?

Okay, flex that discernment muscle a little, ask yourself a few Q’s, and get quiet and listen for the answers:

  • What’s drawing me to this particular practice?
  • Is it the practice or the person I’m drawn too? 
  • What do I want out of this practice or person?  
  • Am I willing to practice what they will teach me on my own, or do I just need  someone to “do”  something to me so I don’t have to do any work myself?  (I know that hurts.) 
  • How will I determine if what I have received is as valuable as what I am giving?  
  • Am I willing to ask a practitioner why they practice, how long they have practiced, how they see themselves, how they use what they know in their everyday life?   If I hear claims that seem impossible or unlikely, am I willing to ask more questions? 

If you’ve got friends who are seekers like you, tweak those questions up and get recommendations but remember, we all don’t like the same hair dresser, so how could we all like the same healer?    If you look through your friends and the big hot messes (we all have them, and we all love them, we just don’t want to be them) are all using the same person, you might want to believe what you see.  Just saying.   

Whenever you feel that “oh no”  twinge, listen up!   That’s your discernment muscle twitching.

Good luck!   Oh, and Google too.   Don’t forget the Google